I know I wrote a lot, but please read and help me! I am heart-broken and I need some tips and advice. This guy was the first guy that I dated and was serious with. We dated for about 3 months. He was the first guy that I really, really liked. When we were together I was happy. He was so kind and loving toward me. He knew what to do and what to say. I think I fell for him. But if I'm gonna be honest, there were some small issues too. We couldn't talk about everything and we were both still a little bit shy. We didn't hang out too much either. At the end we both figured out what we didn't work out too well. I noticed him losing interest and I slowly gave up and stopped making an effort. There were insecurities on both sides. I didn't know if he was really into me and I was insecure about when it came to being faithful, which he always was. He was insecure about what I did when I was out partying and how I behaved toward my guy friends. Also his friends had said something about me, which was not true at all, but it all made him insecure. I noticed him slowly losing interest. We recently talked and he mentioned his insecurities and said that he wasn't ready for a relationship yet, and that we should stay friends. I agreed, but now I'm heart-broken. I feel like I'm never gonna find someone like him. He has those special looks, a gorgeous smile, beautiful eyes, nice laugh, good personality, great humor, good hugger and the best kisser. I feel like he totally highed my standards. I'm never gonna find a guy like him, that can do those special little things he did, has the same great humor etc. He was my kind of perfect and I'm so sad. I'm afraid I'm never gonna get over him, and that I'm never gonna find a guy as good as him.
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I know it hurts right now but like other people say, you will get better.
Also, remember he told you he's not ready. If you really like him you will listen to him and try to make him happy and not force something that he doesn't want. It sounds hard but it's really easy: just tell him you hear what he's saying and okay, we'll just be friends.
This is the best bet for getting back as well, since you'll allow him time to miss you, if he is so disposed.
I hope this helps a bit. Just stay with it, you'll feel better.