she's made it clear she doesn't like me in that way, but I used to be an asshole to her and now she's gotten really close and now she just wants to take care of me so I just feel really bad
Oooh tricky one. I would revisit on how she feels about you. There has been a shift in how she feels about you. She might be trying to fool herself as she is trying to convince you. Young girls do that because they dont want to look pathetic if she doesn't think you like her in that way back. I would test it if you are interested in her.
ok this should be interesting
what do you think she feels, she nags me to wear a jumper when its cold and hugs me when I'm not 100%
If she cares about you catching cold and doesn't want to end it with you now that you have stopped being an arse because she values who you really are. I'd say your chances are good. A close friendship reaction with a girl would go these ways:1. She would let u down a gently as possible-means platonic friend only. She still may love you so she won't want to crush u to a pulp but love in a non romantic sense.2. If she likes you she will switch topics. Blush. Immediately deny (without any thought). May giggle and break eye contact. If this happens she needs reassurance your not going to be back to being an arse towards her. Sometimes you may need to give ground and let her know if you feel the same. Girls can be just as immature with hard conversations as guys like to avoid them. Just keep your sweet self on and talk when its just you two.3. She may actually get brave and admit she likes you.
what do you mean by love in a non romantic sense?
The love you have for your family. They have your loyalty, you will do favors to help them out when the need you, you feel completely at home and comfortable with their presence. Nothing ackward, no nerves and are happy bumming around doing what ever all the time, the thought of them being absent from your life is a terrible concept but you can go not seeing each other for a while and not get mad for not being always around. The big ticket thing is there is 0 sexual vibe between you.
hahaha ohhhh ok I think it may be that type of love 😊
Sweet! Thats a good place to be with someone too. Take care and be good :)
hahaha thanks I really appreciate it 😊
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hahaha thanks, but we don't really have memories
@JohnEaves how close is the friendship?
she nags me to wear a jumper, she knows when I'm not feeling 100% and gives me random hugs
Then maybe she has feelings for you. Is she in a relationship?
she friend zoned me, and she says we're best friends
in my opinion, if she thinks of you as one of her best friends, she probably values you and your opinions. She doesn't want to lose you because of how tight your friendship is.
ok thanks 😊
I have but she refuses, like she wants to take care of me
Do you want to be her friend?
yes, but I feel guilty
What do you feel guilty about?
I used to be an asshole to her by ignoring her for 2 years
Ok then don't be an asshole anymore!
hahaha ok thanks 😊
thank you 😊
hahaha thanks, she's gotten really close so the whole situation scares me
if my guy friend ended the friendship*
don't be scared, it'll all end well in the end. :)
well, not completely well, but if it does turn out badly, i'm sure it'll be over soon.
haha that's helpful 😅
i always mess up what i say (^.^") sorry!
hahaha no its fine, I think im gonna stay with her
its probably for the best
Also, you should let her know how you feel, there's nothing more painful than someone just walking out of your life with no explanation.
I updated it 😊
That's not a good reason at all! I would fight you on that too. No matter if you think you let her down, she wants you as a friend and by trying to end it she probably thinks that you just don't like her anymore. She is trying to convince you that she still wants you as a friend. You may be a more important friend to her than you think. You should stay friends with her. (Pardon my tiger-kitten outrage) :-)
😁 thanks I needed to hear that
No problem love!
it's so hard facing her
You just have to do it. Just be as open and honest and you possibly can.
ok thanks 😝
that really scares me
I feel as though I always let her down and that she could find much better friends
if you let her down thats why its going downhill if you change to become a better person by proving your things then she will see and might accept it might take time to think and realize what u did is wrong or right
I feel like you are playing mind games then...
You want her to miss you and chase you, which is just silly
I really don't