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I know it's hard to deal with all the many factors and people and motives. Plus your own feelings. And I know we are brought up to try and analyze each other's behavior and keeping score etc etc.
However, it relly doesn't work. You will never be happy if you keep trying to control your environment this way. As long as you judge everyone around you, and yourself, ll you will get is more grief.
Let her parents do what they want to do. Let her do what they want to do. Let her cry or not cry. If you've told her you'd like to be with her, well, then she knows. If she needs her parents' approval to everything, you might never have a great relationship anyway.
Focus on yourself, especially your mind. Whenever you have judgmental thoughts or find yourself trying to analyze her, just let it go.
Be yourself, and if it doesn't work out with her, well, then it didn't and you can, and will, find somebody better suited to you.
I hope this helps a bit.