Okay so I was dating this girl, who was the love of my life, for nearly 2 years. We were in a Christian relationship and I thought we'd be together forever. But Last month she wanted to break up with me using the 'I want to get closer to Jesus' card. I was upset but understandable of this. However after some thought things didn't add up and I've found out that because some new guy was giving her a little attention, which is purely given for his own selfish motives, she decided to leave me for him. Now she's with this 'great guy', she's drinking and basically become an entirely different person. It destroys me to see this because it has hurt me so much, yet I've done nothing wrong to deserve this. I Pray for her to sort herself out and come back to God but still I can't understand why she would do this to me. Is there anyone who could somehow try and help me understand her motives?
Most Helpful Girl
Because she got bored and isn't a real Christian. She doesn't want to get close to Jesus, she should be already doing that before you met her! Honestly. Please just listen. She wants to be in this world, she is carnal minded. There is nothing wrong with drinking, but you can't get drunk! If you are truly of him, God would have warned you about this chick. She is undeserving of you, and you need to just give it to God and walk away by moving on from her. Don't let the devil steal from you by using other people again. You can develop a relationship with Christ TOGETHER if God was in approval of this union, which obviously he wasn't.
Word of advice as another believer to another: Always include God to be the center and the final authority in your relationships. Even in marriage. If God warns you no with a certain person, the answer and final say is no. If she wanted to get closer to Christ, she didn't need to break up with you. All she had to do was get on a fast, and you could have done the same. No excuse. That is a bogus reason I have ever heard. Be glad she's gone so that you can focus on God, rely on him to shape you and mold you into a man of him and you will come across another woman who is worthy of your time. God bless.1
Most Helpful Guy
She didn't become an entirely different person, she was already that person. Your problem is that you expected her to have the same loyalty, morals and compassion that you had. Sounds like you were working from an old script without understanding that the vast majority of women in this day and age do not see goodness as a good thing and are influenced by the shallow, disposable hookup culture.
There is far too much to explain to you with this one and the truth is likely to be even more upsetting. Maybe you should have a read on hypergamy or something.