Basically I just feel like this relationship isn't helping me in anyway. . it's pretty much holding me back. My boyfriend is a nice person & everything but it's little stuff that adds up:
1. He's 21 without a license or car.. I'm most cases I could deal with this but he hasn't made any effort to get his license. He always says he's gonna study and take the test but he's been saying that since we got together. Now here we are a year and half later & he hasn't attempted even once. So basically I been his taxi cab.
2. When we used to stay together his friends were ALWAYS there. He'd let them stay the night for 3-4 days before they'd finally go home. It took me months of saying something before he finally made them go home more often. This just makes me think it'd be like that again if we moved back in together.
3. His hygiene is a little off. He'll go a few days without showering & brushing his teeth then expects me to kiss him & be all on him. It's hard.
4. He always wants to know where I'm at & what I'm doing every minute. If I don't text him back right away he'll text back to back to back. Then will get mad asking what I was doing to where I couldn't answer.
That's just the problems I can think off the top of my head.
Would you break up with someone for these reasons? If yes, how would you go about doing it? Am I being fair?
Most Helpful Guy
He needs to grow up.
It sounds like you're just being his mom.
You're hurting him more than you're helping him. You're enabling him.
Tell him he's not mature enough for you and that you're going anther direction. Stay strong. This is going to be reminiscent of a rape class for a second.
No means no
I'm not changing my mind."
He's probably going to try to convince you he'll change, but it won't chime soon enough if he does.
After that, let him decide if he wants to stay friends.
Good luck. Have conviction.