We have had an amazing 4 year relationship but in the last 2 months he has become distant now that he has moved 500 miles away, he said nothing has changed but I dont think thats true.
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Most Helpful Guy
Things have changed because circumstances had changed and that's just the way real life is. Circumstances for his own life, his goals, etc.
If he moved away because he relocated for a new career or job position or something, then there's not really anything you can do to hold him back from it, it's his life and his career goals. If he really wanted to sacrifice all of that to stay with you then he would have done so already.
Either way it's completely beyond your control and that's just the reality of it.
I understand that 4 years is quite a long time for an emotional investment. But I don't think there really is a whole lot you can do. Maybe you can give it up to a year or something. See if you can figure out what you can actually do that will make a long distance relationship work out with him if possible or if you can move close enough to the same area or city he's currently at and get a job and move there also. The second situation is much harder, if not impossible to achieve. And even if you had moved there no guarantees he'll still willing to keep the relationship going as you did say he had become distant in the last 2 months prior to moving away for whatever reason it may be.2
Most Helpful Girl
When someone you love moves away it becomes a challenge to maintain the relationship. It's not impossible for it to continue, but the relationship does change drastically. So you have to try to adapt to the those changes
Sacrifices , compromising and daily contact is needed if the relationship is to survive the distance
Most people who move away pursue a new life there, and they start slowly letting you go. If he loves you though , his love won't be measured by the distance.
I'd only hold onto a long-distance relationship if he was making the effort to still be part of my life. I'd never AGAIN fight alone for a place in a guys life. If he wants me there then he'll make an obvious effort to put me in his life
Give him time to adjust and settle, but I'd end it if you're the only one fighting to make the relationship endure the distance . You can't fight alone.0