well I have been dating this guy for almost a year and a half. we have had our ups and downs as all relationships do. the only thing is our relationship is not normal. my parents are both very strict on me, which he knew before he started dating me, and do not let me hang out with friends or date. my mom sometimes will let me go to the mall with friends. so today me and my boyfriend/ fiance(he preposed saying I was the one and I have a ring and so does he) were doing great and we had planned to go to build a bear to make me another bear, but this time together. and when we half way there my mom called saying my dad was at school waiting to pick me up. so we had to turn around so he could drop me off and he would not talk to me at all. and he finally said he wanted to date a girl he could see everyday and one that her parents wouldn't mind him dating. so when he was dropping me off my dad saw him and asked me about my bf. and right before I got in the care with my dad my boyfriend called saying that my dad saw him because my dad was outside of his car,and I told him I know and that I loved him and not to worry. so my dad took me to his work and the whole way I got a talk about how I'm not sappose to date and all that stuff. and when I arrived at my dadfs work I texted my boyfriend and told him that my dad knew about us and that my dad was going to kick my out when I turn 18. and my boyfriend called me and said if was my fault as soon as I said hello. and then he said that he hopes I have a place to go(we had planned to get married after I was 18 and live together and go to college and med school) and then he said that he was braking up with me because my parents controlled my life and that I never take up for myself(my parents abuse my sometimes) and he said that I can talk to him when I get in control or move out. so I don't know what to do I just texted him and asked him "why are you is being lik this? because you knew my parents were lik this." so what can I do to fix things with my bf? lik he is usually there for me when I get in arguments with my parents and he is lik my bestfriend. and I know he is mad because he had got into an argument before all this happened. please help me with this I really need good advice on how to fix things with my boyfriend like we already have our life planned out and I know we love each other. its just things are so hard for us because my parents. thanks.
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This is almost exactly like my relationship but opposite. His family is the controlling side. I'm sorry, but I do agree with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend wants someone who KNOWS what she wants and doesn't want her parents determining who she can date and be in love with. They control your life. He's not dating you. He's dating YOU and your PARENTS. What type of life is that? I know you love him. And I know he loves you (I love my boyfriend so much, but I'm still thinking about dumping him because I'm starting to see that he does not have to balls or the ability to be with me. Maybe one day, but not now. I want to be with him, which is why I wrote a post on here, too. Read mine. See the other side of the spectrum). They only way you are going to get him back is if you get your OWN life in order. You take control and tell your parents that they can either support what makes you happy or get out of your life. He wants to know that your parents won't be "extra baggage" or have any influence on you and your planned life together once you graduate and move out. I know they are your parents and you love them, but you have to grow up a little. It might take time for you to get an idea on what you want to do, but if he truly loves you like he says he does (and I don't doubt it), you'll get him back.0