did i mention he cheated on me when we were together? and then he strung me along, making me believe he loved me for months but then admitted he had another girlfriend the whole time and was only using me for sex. and then he sent me that message and told me he had no feelings for me and to get out of his life because he didn't love me and he loved someone else. then three months later he unblocks me. wtf? please help. im confused. you have good advice it seems
No you didn't but the fact that he did that only further confirms that he is not worth one more minute of your emotional investment, time, or focus. It's simple: He's a confused boy who doesn't respect women. He has no respect for the female experience and what it means to be a woman who puts your heart out there and risks having it shattered. He's confused about which woman he wants to experience. And he's a boy in the sense that true men do not function like such undisciplined, carless, inconsiderate children who leave psychological and emotional messes with every woman they get involved with. Why he unblocked you doesn't matter because he will never have what it takes to give you what you need and what you deserve. There's absolutely nothing to gain from overanalyzing and contemplating the root of his behavior because it appears that all he does in your life is create a mountain of problems for you to struggle with.
The best advice anyone can give you on this situation is to walk away from this man and stop giving him access to walk back into your life whenever he feels like it. You're wasting your youth on his mess.
but does him unblocking me mean that he still thinks about me?
No. Not necessarily. You may hope, dream, and wish that's what it meant but it most likely just meant that he was feeling nosey and wanted to peek in on what's going on in your life. What he thinks of you or if he thinks of you is irrelevant because he's going to continue stabbing you in the back, being careless with your heart, disrespecting you, and treating you like dirt. He's probably more kind and caring to a dog than he is to you from the sounds of it. Is that the type of man you really want to be with?
you are so right!! thank you. so, what do you suggest i do now? him and his girlfriend are back together but something tells me if they were to break up he might contact me or something. advice?
You are very welcome.I suggest you simply block him. Enjoy the completion. Enjoy the fact that you don't actually have to deal with his mess anymore and that you're not actually obligated to interact and communicate with him. It's over and based on what you've told me, THAT'S A GIFT. Completion from him is a gift. Now you can move forward without having to worry about some jerk tearing you down and ruining your day. Do not give him the opportunity to contact you. Now that we've established he's a snake, a backstabber, sneaky, shady, and treacherous, close that door for good, lock it, and throw away the key. Stop giving him the chance to be apart of your existence.
perfect, got it. what do you think? do you think he will message me?
In all honesty, I think you sound extremely desperate and you must not respect yourself if you're waiting around for your asshole ex who cheated on you to text you. Do you want him to text you?
either way, wouldn't it be easier to keep me blocked?
Yeah, I think so.
why did he want to see my feed?
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but then why unblock me if thats what he wants?
because he (like me) thought that you would stop stalking him, blocking someone is useless at least he and i share that vision of things. Imagine the scenario : you are a hysterical killer, he holds you down rendering you unable to move at all... after 3 hours of holding you down you start to think "maybe she learned that she shouldn't mess with me, maybe she has HALF of a functionning brain" and as he releases you : YOU JUMP BACK AT HIS THROAT... now tell me who is the stupidest of the 2 : the one unblocking you thinking you moved on as he did, or the hysterical stalking idiot who doesn't know when to quit?
see what i mean? you are the idiot here... MOVE THE FUCK ON AND LEAVE HIM BE