My boyfriend took my virgintity, and he has always said he loves me. But I question this because he doesn't put any effort in. I spoke to him last night about how I don't feel like I'm seen as important in his life and it feels like he doesn't love me or care about our relationship. He barely speaks to me when we're not together and I don't want to initiate it because I worry he doesn't want to be bothered and when I have done before he still doesn't respond or if he does he doesn't for a long time. He also never takes me out and does nice things with me which is what I'd like to do now and then, he just said this is the way he's always been and he doesn't like going out he'd rather chill at home and play games. He said that I used to be interested in playing games with him and he liked that but now he feels like I've changed in that respect because apparently I get annoyed when he's playing them. But that's because I've been craving his attention more and more, I want him to spend time with me :( he also said he doesn't like going out because he doesn't have any money to spend on that, but he finds money to spend on games and other people when need be! But not his own girlfriend?
I don't know how to try and ask him to compromise for me, because he argues with my requests, it's not like I'm asking him to change I just want him to show me love…
I don't want to dump him, because then I won't have anyone to love me, I need someone, I will feel a lot more depressed than I do now if I broke up with him. I just don't know how to resolve these problems! Please help.
Most Helpful Guy
You need to get more self respect.. Everybody is important.. you have you worth.. don't let anyone get you down.. If there were at least one or two nice things he would've done I would've said otherwise but the best thing to do is to tell him exactly how bad you feel and if he's going to continue being like this you'd rather break up.. and I'm telling you breakup will be better.. If you don't break up you'll be crying like this all the time.. instead you can just end it and it'll get better soon.. Ik that breakup is very painful and yes its unimaginable sometimes.. you might feel suicidal and stuff and I've been through that.. Believe me you're young, you've got a lot ahead of you in life.. you'll find new people.. And you'll find a guy who will make you feel special.. Also don't keep clinging to him.. people start taking things for granted... Let it be.. Broaden your thinking.. no person in this world is worth someone's own happiness.. Try to talk with him and if you have to break up... that's the best thing to do.. if you feel like talking I'll be all years you can message me..
Remember don't ever let anyone get you down :)
Most Helpful Girl
It's not true that you won't find anyone to love you. If you've stated what you needed from a relationship and your boyfriend is not willing to move an inch from his position and you feel like you deserve better i think you have two options: 1. Take some time away from eqch other so you can both evaluate if you're both willing to put some effort in the relarionship. 2. Try to move on and eventually find someone else. You're still very young and you'll have other opportunities to meet people with whom you can feel a lot better. Your dating life has just begun :)