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You've never had an ex who was better than the rest who you thought maybe it would work down the road?
I have but I didn't contact them because I thought they must have someone else at the moment. Surprisingly a few did contact me asking if we could work things out again.
What did you end up telling them or how did you handle it?
It happened twice that I accepted it but things didn't turn out well. Since then I never want to get back with my ex anymore.
When you say you "accepted it" do you mean you dated again for a bit? And you got back twice with the same guy? Or 2 separate guys you tried again with?
Yes means I get back with them. Two separate guys. I thought about giving it a try. I think I gotta agree with people saying they are our ex for a reason.
Why did you and your ex's break up in the first place?
One was because we were not compatible in so many areas and argued a lot. The second was because we both lost interest. This was mutual.
When you lose interest... just generally speaking, do you think that is something that can comeback with time? Or down the road?
Yes there is a possibility. Sometimes it happens that we just realize how much we want them once we lost them.
What exactly did you lose interest in? How did it happen? Did he just not look as good or what?
Well after a while I just began to realize that we are better as good friends not lover. The feeling wasn't exactly love but more to companionship. He agreed which was why we ended it in a good way. Nothing to do with his look. Once I have dated a guy it means that his look is fine with me, otherwise I wouldn't be seeing him at the first place.
I'm not sure what I should do about my situation, we've been in nc for awhile wished her a happy birthday and she didn't respond but she told me she loved me and really missed me, and is not interested in anyone else. I think she is really confused.
Maybe she doesn't really know what is her feeling. Give her some time. Did she ever initiate contact?
Not yet after we first broke up we didn't talk for 2 weeks then we talked again. Hung out at night she was all over me and we had sex. Few days later went out to a nice dinner where she said she still loved me and missed me a lot and wasn't interested in anyone else. Even on the car ride over to dinner I would catch her staring at me telling me I looked really good. Dinner went really well. She was kissing me and holding my hand. Then next day she text me saying "everything I said at dinner was true. just can't even understand myself right now, I love you and will call you Sunday after the wedding" she never called Sunday. Then the next morning she said "she can't do this anymore" i feel like she is really confused. I've just been giving her the space and time. If she calls she calls if she doesn't she doesn't you know? Just wondering what she is going through from a girls perspective. Now her parents got divorced recently and her mom has had some financial problems I don't know if thats it.
Well I have broken family too and it doesn't affect any of my feeling in a relationship or how I view things. To me it sounds like she still have feeling for you but for some reasons, she can't do it. I am not sure why but definitely something is up.
I don't know why she wouldn't respond to a simple happy birthday text... I too believe she has feelings, but seems like she is trying to fight them and keep her distance... I don't know
Just let her decide. If you are really in her heart she will come back.
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How long after you broke up did you contact him?
Did it work out what happened?
lol yeah, the sex was great because we have such amazing chemistry.
Similar to my situation. So great sex and chemistry can bring someone back down the road. And y'all are still together?
No, it was just a short-term thing. We got together like 4 times just for sex.
Why didn't y'all get back together?
Because our relationship was over, and we knew we didn't work as a couple. We only really worked when we were in bed lol.
For guys who always ask the answers like she wants to stay 'friends' after the breakup, this post up there from the lady sums it up quite nicely. Never be friends with someone who left you for someone else or the reason of them breaking up with you was because of someone else.
I'm not saying i would move on, I'm saying I'm not going to be friends i just don't want that first stage to me awkward. so the first chance i get I'm deleting.
I know what you meant to say with your post. I'm just laying it out there who don't get it and kind of get stuck with the 'friends' part.
What happened? Did you try and get him back? How did it go?
As much as I loved him, I knew he deserved better so I let go of him. But there's not a day I don't think about him
How long did y'all date?
What happened in your situation?
Well, it usually just turns out bad. Like the other oerson just wants sex and that's it.