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Thank you for that, I wasn't really aware, but it sure makes sense...
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I don't read books and articles, I just ask other people who go through shit... and there are plenty of studies that Men are Different from Women when it comes to showing emotion. I fully am aware that men are individuals thank you and just so you know, realizing is spelled with a Z!!!
My story is complicated, but this person I have known many years, he was never upset or angry person. But we are both married, can't be together, after we met for the last time, he said he couldn't do it, it was too emotional for him... I think he might have loved me, I know I love him, but he of course made the right choice, he had to be with his family, as do I. I wanted to just remain in contact, but when I asked him if I could just check on him a couple of times a year, he got angry, told me it would always end badly, he wasn't going to respond to me any more, broke my heart!!! All I want is to know how he is once in ahwile, I can stay in contact, and it not bother me, but he appeared angry, so I was just wandering if it was purposeful towards me to get me to go away...
Oh I remember you from another questionYes, he uses anger as a way of making you dislike himHe thinks by displaying anger, he will dissuade you from further contact. Anger is a very powerful emotion that almost always leads to action. In this case he wants you to get out of his life, but the anger is tied into his love and frustration. He can't be with you, he has his own life. And keeping contact will just be more painful for him and maybe you
I know you are right, but as a woman all I want to know is one question. Tell me this. If I leave him alone like I did last year for many months, and then reach out, all I want him to do is tell me that he cares, but he can't care. If I knew that I meant something to him, but it just can't be, I think I would be able to get over all of the past five years with him, but by him just cutting me off and being angry, it only leaves me wanting to talk to him , because I know he is not a mean person, he is morally a good man. I know being apart is the right thing to do, I just want to know that five years meant something to him, especially since he was my first boyfriend all those years ago... what are your thoughts about me waiting and just calling say in a few more months? any widom
I would sayTake comfort in knowing he did love you, all the way back in high school and those five years you both were loversHe loves you now (his anger stems from his love) but you have to let go. Take comfort in knowing he is happy with his children.There is a movie for this situation but it is Hindi lol it's called Kabhi Alvida na Kehna (never say good bye) I would suggest watching it, I am pretty sure it's on Netflix. I know watching a movie sounds so silly, but it could really help put your life into perspective.
I didn't really ever want to say goodbye to him... love sucks! I hate the not knowing and the cut off, if we could have a good ending, if there is such a thing, that would make it better to be settled to me... but thanks for your suggestion, I might try to see the movie!
It is very long and Hindi So fast forward through the musical parts unless you enjoy song and dance lol
Ideally you would both divorce your partners and live together and remarry
Maybe, but we don't live in a perfect world, and I know we both also love our families beyond measure, it us just that I know I am in love with him, just wish I knew if he felt the same for sure. If I knew that, then I would go on, and be okay in that comfort like you said, but the reason I wanted to reach out one more time, was to try to talk while we were calm months later, he was so angry last time and hurt me so bad, but also at the same time dont want to open myself up for more hut!
Just trying to figure out someone who was special to me at one time. It is obviously a male. Our last phone conversation started out ok, we were actually ending (what was a 5 year affair ) we have known each other for 34 years. We are both married, and we both knew it was time, and it wasn't going anywhere, but he was never an angry person... Towards the end of the conversation, he just sort of snapped, said he wouldn't respond to me if I reached out again, he seemed angry ( he doesn't get angry typically) so I guess I am just trying to figure out all these months later if he really has a reason to be mad, or was he actually trying to hide another feeling? I can't ask him because he won't respond to me! Thanks
Yea it could be a mask to hide his true feelings. People sometimes have the tendicy to break someone's heart to ease the pain so they can move on. It doesn't make much sense but hey we're only men. it's all we no it's how we deal with our problems. Lol
That is what someone else told me too, I have been wanting to break our No Contact just to ask him after all these months, but I guess really there is no point. Just because we knew each other since Jr. High, I was at least wanting to be on good terms in life... it bothers me so much, and I know it shouldn't, we are worlds apart, but when you care...
Thanks, just wandered this man is someone I cared about deeply thought he cared about me, but we are both married, he was always so kind, but when talking to me one day a few months ago, he just lashed out of the blue, but I was thinking it was more of his hurt than anger, but couldn't figure him out, haven't talked with him since...
Well while some guys have learned to do that, just like some women learn to be passive aggressive, it doesn't make it 'okay'
Thank you, sorry you are way too young for me, but I appreciate it very much, and I always try to be nice!
You are very welcome, and dont be sorry:)But i know how to treat women around your age, i had dated before:)and i think older women around your age are the best ever
Thank you very much, I really like being this age that is for sure, I don't think I would want to go backwards:))
You are welcome:)Yeah i believe that. You women at this age are really much more beautiful, and sexier than most younger girlsso i like older women like you, :)
where are you?i thought i could talk to you:)
What do you mean where am I?
i mean i want to talk to you on here:)i think i could get along well with you
please follow me so i could message you
Okay so I went and requested to follow you
I like that, just barey your emotions in the gym. I'm gonna try that next time..