Do you really believe in a second chance after a breakup?

Do you really believe that you can rekindle a relationship with your ex after a breakup? Does second chances usually make things work out when they didn'tat first place?

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  • Usually no. Because they broke up for a reason. And unless the reason (s) for the breakup are taken care of in a suitable fashion by both parties and memories are buried then it won't work. And it rarely does.

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    • And what if the relationship just ended up bc a simple argument?

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    • I don't really mean a SIMPLE argument but we were like having arguments usually but we usued to forget about it, but this time he said he couldn't and that he held that for a very long time, but it always don't work out!

    • In that case it was something he couldn't get over so unless he's gotten over it - which that's doubtful because he ended the relationship over it - then I see no way amends could be made to be if you two back together

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  • I used to think I would never want to go back to the person who had disappointed me before, until I realize:

    1 No one knows how to be a perfect partner just because you are 21+ -- it's a life long learning process, we learn that from our past, from the void. It comes at a cost, called heart broken;
    2 A lot of issues are caused by insufficient communication ( let's cross infidelity first), and they can be resolved. We don't express ourselves fully to let our partner know us well, because it's natural that we are afraid of being vulnerable, being mistreated -- thanks to terrible partners from the past, we are afraid they will leave us once they see the TRUE me. So we hid;
    3 Grass are not usually greener elsewhere. Yes, the ex is not perfect, SO AM I. It's just at the beginning new partner hasn't get time to show us their flaws. Think about the first time meeting ex, the person is charming and attractive, then we found they aren't like that any more, simply because we know them more and see them as a human beings.
    4 It's usually easy to single out all ex's faults, but we blindside our own. When I finally see me in the mirror, I see what my ex had been carrying quietly all the time, and I appreciate that, I find that's beyond polite and nice.

    I'm sure you have all the reasons to let go and start over with a new person, so you don't have to go back to the wounds and scares in your previous relationship, you can learn and apply your experience with your new love. But that doesn't mean your ex does not worth a second chance. When we stay in a relationship, we tend to take our partners for granted, such that we feel a little too comfortable to make changes, keep the sparks, and keep investing. Then breakup follows.

    The fundamental assumption of second chance is, both of us are willing to face the issue and work on it, be kind and show our loves toward each other. I don't promote or suggest every one deserve a second chance, I'd say, evaluate your own relationship with a clear mind, talk to calm and wise -- better in a happy and healthy relationship -- friends, then make your decision.

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  • It really depends. Actually the reason the relationship went down must have been removed. If the source of the breakup is still there, then it's only a matter of time before breakup number 2. Also, another reason could exist (persist or arise). So you can believe, but don't believe blindly. And if both are motivated enough for it to work (because of love, of course) then communication and good faith shall get the job done. In this case many break ups are possible but love should suffise to reconcile, repair, rebuild, start again, make better.

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  • Depends on what caused the breakup. If it was (like the post recently in here) for farting during sex, it might be salvageable. For something more fundamental, probably not.

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  • Second attempts rarely work. Sometimes they do. Most times they don't.

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  • Nope!

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What Girls Said 2

  • Yes I do , but not if infidelity was the cause of the breakup.

    I don't believe a relationship can ever survive a second time if there's been a betrayal

    If both people still love each other, and they're both willing to resolve past issues , and make compromises then it's possible their relationship can be strengthened, and surive

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  • Yes- I've been there and done that. It didn't work out in long run though.

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