So one night I was drinking with this guy who's my friend and I kissed him. I told my boyfriend that night because I felt overwhelmed with guilt. He immediately broke up with me. Now we are both very depressed but he has decided he will never get back together with me even though I have offered to let him track me and my text messages, anything he needs to gain my trust back but he still won't get back. He says he misses me so bad but that he would never be able to trust me again. I keep holding into false hope. And I just want to drink to take the pain away. I won't let myself sleep and have thought of harming myself. How do I let go and forgive myself?
Most Helpful Guy
When a baby is trying to learn to walk, if it falls over, does a baby dwell on what it did wrong and think about giving up? No, it gets back up and keeps going, and learns from its mistakes, and soon it can walk much much easier.
Relationships are the same way. You screw up. It's easy to happen, especially when it's one of your first ones. Just gotta chalk it up as a learning experience, tell yourself you won't make that mistake next time, and start walking until you find the next person that you can make sure you do everything right with.
Most Helpful Girl
You need to apologize to him; tell him sorry that you didn't mean to break his trust.
You cannot force himself to be with you if he doesn't wanna be with you, you gotta move on and try to get over him.
Nobody is perfect; mistakes happens and we learn from them so do not regret or harm yourself. Take it as an experience and look forward.
You better not hope that a miracle will happen and he will trust you again. If he still has feelings for you, he will come back to you.
It will take time to make you feel better, be Patient and get over him. Good luck.0