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It’s nice tht you have a child and you sound pretty centered and balanced about yourself and even fairly good about your relationship to your ex. Of course, you’re here asking about this latest overture so there is some doubt present. I’d like to suggest a few tihngs to think about.
First, consider that love is the only force in the universe. When you lok at your daughter, that feeling you get, that’s what I mean. Also, you used to have this feeling about your ex and in a way, it’s still there. Not that you’re in love with him but since you’re able to conjure up, remember, and feel what you used to feel, the relationship, like all relationships, is eternal.
I also notice a slight bitterness towards him when you say “he was not there” for your child. This sentiment will keep you from a happy relationship with him, and also with your daughter. First thing about this is that you can give your daughter her dad fully, if you only sway good things about him. The other thing is that he never signed papers saying he has to be any particular way. Just like you never did and what a good thing we don’t have to.
He obviously needed a break and you just gave it to him which was a good action. I also imagine you might have been quite happy to have a break from him, I just get that feeling. So now, he’s ready to move forward and I invite you to embrace that 100%. He is obviously troubled and doesn’t know where to look for help and he remembers you as someone he is very close to.
See how it feels to be with him. Your only concern should be yourself, as you’re trying to steady yourself and your positive vibration about your life, your kid, and your ex as well. If he is too distraught, you may not want to be with him a lot. But if it feels fine to do so, then go ahead.
My point is, learn to listen to your inner voice, your gut, and allow yourself to be gently guided by your spirit. Do not let anybody interfere with this.