When I was at a low peak in my depression for 6 months during the relationship, my girlfriend stuck by my side. I was very withdrawn. I wouldn't contact her for a few days at a time, barely saw her, and just stayed at home by myself.
Now, I'm in a better emotional state, but my girlfriend has been going through depression for the last 7 months. Her depression is the opposite of mine. She is really needy, she needs my attention constantly. She wants me to come over and spend all day and night with her. She needs me to text her without delays and call her constantly. She has frequent outbursts of anger. She cries multiple times a day.
She doesn't want me to hangout with friends, ever. She wants me to completely remove my few close friends from my life (delete their number, block them off social media, etc.) and only focus on her and move in with her. If I refuse to do that or can't come over because of work, she tells me I don't care about her.
She doesn't have health insurance and therefore hasn't gotten evaluated by a professional. Her family has also discouraged her to getting help by convincing her that depression isn't a real thing, she just needs to toughen up.
I'm kind of torn. I love her very much and a part of me feels like I should stick by her side through it, after all, that's what she did for me. On the other hand I feel like I'm only dragging myself down, it's been going on for 7 months.
At what point is enough, enough?
Most Helpful Girl
You do right away, before you you grow bitter and resentful because their making you miserable and draining your energy. You are not responsible for your girlfriends problem. You can't carry her baggage. You know you can't handle it, then let it go. Overall she does need to stay strong and find a purpose for her life. Depression is real, BUT it is also spiritual and psychologically. Something has infiltrated her state of mind and soul. She is vulnerable and doesn't have an healthy outlet. And her parents are NOT helping. If she can't receive professional help. Then the best way to handle this is to go to a community church that is willing to at least speak to her and offer her guidance and direction. IF she wants that. If she don't take that offer, then you have to make the tough choice, to leave her alone. This relationship either ends by you or it will end by itself. She has to change, and want it or else its over.
Most Helpful Guy
Well I am sorry to hear of the struggles you face, both with your own issues and dealing with hers. Are you in the US? Since she does not have insurance, I'd imagine she would qualify under the affordable care act? I'd see about getting her insurance asap and getting her into a doctor. If you are currently in treatment, you might want to check with a nurse in that office for what route your girlfriend can take to get insurance in your state. (Assuming you are in the US.) // I went through something similar with a girlfriend when I was around 26, only she was mean to me instead and chased me out of her life. Her way of dealing with her depression was to be mean to everyone so they would avoid her. So not exactly the same as your situation.