Honestly I am wondering why should I be friends with my ex girlfriend. I have taken sometime away from her and taken a break for my life, a mini vacation from my everyday life. I realized that I didn't feel that appreciated by her, on some levels. Like in the first 12 months of our relationship she use to wait for me at a bus stop for 5 - 10 min just to see me. She stopped doing that in our final 4 months of our relationship and different little small things like that. Also she would cut back time to see me once a week or less. She would go out with guy friends to lunch and would complain to me about how little time she had for everything else. We then went on and off for the 4 months, I called a break, got back together, then she broke it off, saying her love for me had faded, that we just didn't have enough time for each other and that she would like to remain friends. She also went on about how great I was and stuff like the ideal guy to settle down with, in her eyes I am the type of guy she would like to settle down with, but not to get my hopes up of us getting back together. So we have not talked all that much for 2 months now, she got a new boy friend about 2 - 3 weeks after we split and the guy has already done a home run on her if you know what I mean. She is leaving town in about a year's time, and well I am confused if I should be her friend or not. I am a very forgiving guy, but I am not sure if this has gone to far or should I just put it behind me and move on.
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It will be very hard on you to keep her as a friend. I know this, because I am going through a similar situation with my ex. The fact that you were in love with her, and probably still are, will not make a friendship easy. It is liable to make you frustrated and inhibit your progress in getting over her and getting on with your life. I would say that maybe someday in the future it would be a better possibility, but I don't think that right now is the time to be friends with her. If she really wanted to keep you in her life that badly, she wouldn't have broken up with you. I would say that minimal/no contact would be for the best now. Let her move away to wherever she is going, and then maybe someday you guys can reconnect and become friends.0
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