Most Helpful Guy
Use the brains God gave you and learn to say no and move on with your life.
If you can't move on than it will continue i think you have too much availability time for this guy is why you can't break it off with him. Do something productive with your life and stop thinking about him just think he could be out there with some other woman doing the same exact thing to her so just be careful.
Most Helpful Girl
You can't. You just can't its basically too late. You had sex. And sex is a binding contract. Even if you get away from him physically, you will never forget him sexually. And it will just make your body crave for him, or any other of your old sex partners for more. You can't say: "that's not what I want." But yet: "I always give into giving him sex and whatever he wants." You basically told him yes.
Actions speak LOUDER than your words. So when he says no, you can't get upset or complain. I'm sorry. But sex was your choice. Nobody told you to have sex with him. And yes you are a slave, because you illegally married him spiritually through sex. You want to get away? Then stop having sex. Stop it period. Because your lust and lack of self control is whats getting you into trouble. That is why you wait for sex, especially for marriage. You can't make a person respect you when you haven't given him a reason to respect you. Even to challenge him. Men needs challenges. If their too lazy to do anything, it means their not worth your time. They want an easy lay and that sadly is what you gave him.