I'm 20, my ex is 18. I recently found out he was cheating on me with 7 or 8 other girls. I gave him a second chance and he just did it again. I do not mean to sound conceited whatsoever, but these girls he cheated on me with do not even come close to me in appearance and kindness. I have a body that most men would consider very good, and I gave my ex my entire heart. I would do absolutely everything for him and treated him like gold. I can't seem to get over the idea of him being sexually attracted to / getting off to other girls bodies. It hurts me so bad. He says he's insecure and thinks he's the "ugly one" in the relationship (which is not true at all) and he felt more comfortable doing stuff with unattractive girls to feel better about himself. How do I get over this heartbreak? I can't stop thinking about him wanting other girls 😞 Thank you all in advance xoxo
Most Helpful Guy
this one's is very challenging to tackle but here's my word on it. you dated a guy who's below you it means you're insecure (I was too)... Getting cheating on hurts and you're worried about getting cheated on and that's normal. It seems like your still trying to find your self. I did the exact same thing there's some kind of logic if you date someone who's below you but they will be faithful and kind and whatever. I've met a real model before and got to know her really well and she was one of the most sweetest girls I've ever met I always thought that the ugly girls were the ones with"personality" and good girls. But was I ever wrong
I have seen it in my town all the time scratching my head wondering why the beautiful girls choose the guys that they do. I am not talking about bad boys just loserish people. And that what he is. my ex of seven years cheated on me about that many times your ex did as well (told me on my birthday which was new years eve) and I just swepped it under the rug until labout a year later I blew up.
and I totally believe what you're saying in your post because the people that they cheat on with are below you... because if they were above you in their mind they would break up with you just so he can date somebody else... and here's the other part once that relationship ends which he is going to try and set you up as a safety net. As a steady supply of sex... don't fall for it find somebody who appreciates you.
I had a close friend do that to his girl. I caught him trying to bang the girl that I brought home and I just went to the bathroom. He ended with her panties around her ankles while making out with her while I just finished taking a piss. He ended up bying his girl a trip and spent about 5 grand on jewelry. Completely ignored me and ditched me a whole bunch of times. It just pissed me off to a point where I don't talk to him anymore. Fuck those people1
Most Helpful Girl
That is such a tough situation. You just have to realize that this problem is entirely about him. He clearly has something going on that honestly he should seek professional help with.
You are still really young and I'm sure you'll have many opportunities in thr future. I think it will just take time to get over him.1