Getting back your ex although you slept together? and how to tell him you want more again?

Has anyone ever broken up with their ex and somehow gotten back together although the 2 of you slept together after the bu? or how did you do it? I am in a confusing situation. We broke up awhile ago but he was the first to contact. We slept together for a few months although it killed me to not be official. He changed his mind and said we should stop. He said it was not fair to either of us to continue with this. This went back and forth with everytime we did something he would tell me that the next day. Lets say this happened 3 times and then now he has nont said that. I still want him back and feel like there is still something but dont know how to approach this. I feel like he gave up too soon on something that before we broke up was great. He was saying how amazing i was etc. We got along great so I don't know. I feel like he got strong feelings too quick and got scared to possibly. How do i tell him i still want a relationship? I have been wanting to say it for awhile but everytime i just chicken out.

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What Guys Said 2

  • seems like you got a good flow going... you know how when you slide the matchstick on the matchbox... sometimes it takes a few tries before it lights (or becomes useless)
    Ride the flow. If you start building expectations... you only set yourself up for disappointment. Its sexual for now, but work it, go from sexual to outside, spend some time, guys (contrary to female belief) aren't stupid... he will know your intentions and decide if he wants in or out... but the key is to "Bust A Move"... put in an obvious effort.

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    • We broke up in April and have been doing that since until he said that in mid August. He knew then I still had feelings, but like i said its weird how he can say for us to stop but then we are still continuing it. I feel like its taken forever, but some people i have talked to said he does still have feelings and give it time. What do you mean go from sexual to outside? I have given idea of movie night. We tried and canceled a few times and it finally happened but went over and wound up having sex. Plus it was late at night. We do joke around when im over there and he is very loving. I also always spend the night. Its just a confusing situation to me. I am thinking about asking him to go somewhere one night to a casino and spend the night. This way it is out. I am just going crazy because it has been awhile. I also know when the bu came when he was struggling to find a job he has told a few people he needed to get his life in order before he could take care of someone else.

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    • thats the spirit... well.. until you find someone who can make you scream louder in bed lol.

    • lol, yeah we will see what happens

  • Yeah. It just happened we kinda started spending time together as fuck buddies and we just kinda stated dating again

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    • How long were you doing that before you kind of started dating again?

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    • I know that isn't helpful but in the end people break up for one reason or another. That reason might go away for a while but it always comes back... i can say it was good at first but our problems definitely returned

    • We didn't have any problems in the relationship, he started to become stressed because he was not able to find a job and it was stressful. He closed off from everyone but eventually told me he was not feeling what he thought he should at the point in our relationship. I found it weird bc before it all happened we were happy and he was saying how amazing i was etc. So i still believe we could work out. I also think maybe he got scared and feeling too strong not sure. We have been doing this since our bu in April and went through spurts where he said we should stop bc it was unfair to us but somehow we fell back into it. So i think something is still there but im not even sure

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  • Maybe write your feelings down in a letter and give it to him? Otherwise I think you should go out for coffee or lunch with him and spill it all. Have a heart to heart and tell him everything you told us. Tell him why you think he is special and why you believe you are right for each other. Now is not the time for games or ego. Just the truth.

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    • Thanks, I think so too since its been on my mind for awhile well since the bu. Like I said I feel like we shouldn't have broken up because things were great and then all of a sudden the change thats why in a way I believe he got scared although he won't say it. Ill ask him how he feels about this situation since he previously expressed we should stop and I wwill tell him how i feel and what i want. I think there is hope but you never know until you try right?

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