Long story short, I met a guy on there, went on a few dates with him thinking he was also looking for a girlfriend, and I slept with him on the 3rd date because I liked him. This is the first time I ever let a man have sex with me that soon. I regret it.
After that, he didn't put in much effort at all and ended up treating my like a fuck buddy for the next few encounters we had after that. I'm really sad because I feel hurt that he wouldn't see me as girlfriend material. I have always held myself with respect, dignity, have been positive, warm, fun, and kind on my dates with men. I hold myself well but I messed up by giving into sex. I just found out this morning that he has a brand new serious girlfriend. I feel like awful because I feel like I could have been that girl if only I had held out on the sex and made him work for me instead. Do you agree? If not, please give me insight.
I am taking this so personally and feel so humiliated in front of him. How can I feel better about this?
Most Helpful Guy
Don't beat yourself up. If he was truly into you, you'd still be seeing each other. He had it in his head you were only a hookup. Don't think if you waited he would have stuck around because it is also just as likely he would have given up on you and moved on since he only wanted sex. Sorry to hear about this, but just remember there are lots of great guys out there! Keep trying and have faith in us!
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Most Helpful Girl
I think that's true, girls that have sex to soon or act willing to have too soon fall into friends with benefits category. It sucks cuz if we really like someone we get too over eager to please and often backfires. I have no idea how to change his mind I think once he sees you that way there is no going back accept maybe just don't have sex with him anymore and tell him it was a mistake, that you don't want friends with benefits.