If this mistake was something I had never learned about before, I'd just say "I just didn't know any better, but now I know, no big deal." But unfortunately, I did learn this lesson in the past, but forgot to apply it to my life and really practice the lesson I learned. As a result I ended up ruining it with this person because I repeated the same mistake twice.
I'm incessantly telling myself that I deserved it and that I am now missing out on this amazing person because of it.
Has anyone else ever been in this situation? Please tell me I'm not the only one. I want to know that there are others who have experienced making the same mistake more than once and feeling that they missed out on a great opportunity.
Most Helpful Guy
What was the mistake if you don't mind me asking?
I can sorta relate, but it was more or less of making a mistake with the type of person I was dating. I got rebounded my first time a couple years ago and after it ended, it hurt dearly and I'd say I'd never do it again.
This year I got rebounded again, but didn't find out until after the first date that she was newly single. Since we had a lot in common, I still gave it a shot and went at her place. I acted a lot different than how I did with the previous rebounder but still got screwed over. I didn't beat myself up but I felt the same pain I did as a few years ago but worse.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, first, own it. You didn't "forget" to apply whatever this mistake was, you just chose not to do it. Let's not make excuses.
Second, maybe you did deserve it. But hey, life goes on. I promise this is not the only amazing person you'll ever meet.
I have not been in this situation. I thought I had been but I wasn't and I learned later in life that, even though I kind of messed it up, he wasn't compatible for me anyway. All you can do is just move on and not repeat it again. But also remember that you're human and just because you make a mistake once, doesn't mean you won't again, and, if you do, there's nothing wrong with it. We're imperfect. Just move on.