First off thank you to everyone who answered my question at my previous posts. It really helped me a lot to understand what is going on and get back in the game.
Recently, I was researching why she broke up with me in a bad way - We are senior in high school and we attend to different boarding school. We had an awesome summer, but when we got back from school we had an argument in Skype about seeing her or not. She told me we are taking a break (and I took it literally) and when I texted her on her b-day, her best friend told me to not contact her anymore. Her friend told me how she was not ready to make a commitment, but what I wanted was my ex's confrontation.
Basically, the research gave me an idea that She "Ghosted" me. Ghosting means one person suddenly disappears and stops contacting the partner. This usually happens because he/she doesn't want to hurt partner's feelings so they just back off. Another psychological thing is they get afraid telling the break up so they just disappear like nothing happened.
Because of this terrible break up, I got a huge scar on my heart and it made not to trust anyone. So I really need everyone's help - WHAT SHOULD I DO & HOW CAN I CLEARLY MOVE ON?
Also, it will great what you guys think about ghosting - Women and men - Why do people do this?
Any question, please let me know.
The BEST way to move on from a bad break up?
What Girls Said 3
Ghosting is a terrible cruel and cowardly way to end a relationship. It shows little to no respect for the person you shared a close bond with and is far more hurtful than telling them what is going on. I never really ghosted anyone but it happened to me once and it was horrible. It really made me afraid to trust again. It also made it very difficult for me to relax/trust my ex. He made it impossible for us to have any chance for reconciliation. It made me realize I would never want to be with someone who could do that to another person. They are not worthy of your tears. They are the lowest of the low.1
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I would say the best way to move on from a break up is to focus on yourself. Distract yourself from hobbies or things that you enjoy. Delete and block her number, if you are friends on Facebook, etc delete and block. Give yourself time to grieve if you need to. If you ever run into each other in public just act like he doesn't exist and don't make eye contact whatsoever. If she does try to make eye contact with you just look away. Acting like my ex didn't exist helped me move on so much. Just focus on yourself and do things that you enjoy and things that make you happy.0
To move on I'd say meet new people and erase all contact you have with her. As a girl, I ghost on people who I generally don't want to be with anymore and I'm a shy person so ghosting is something I do most of the time to avoid contact with that person.0
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