Why wouldn't it work a second time?
If you aren't meant to be with that person, it wouldn't work even after 100chances.
But you think there is a chance that it could work a second time around?
Yes it can if you both are willing to have a serious relationship
One of my exes yes.
Ok even if it's been over 6 months since we broke up?
Why is that?
because I exhausted all possibilities of making it work before leaving.
Even if it's a misunderstanding and that person is willing to fix it?
depends on the misunderstanding. like what?
She thinking you weren't sexually into her.
oh wow that is a game changer
why would you hide that from her?
I wasn't trying to, but she got offended, when I didn't feel comfortable having sex in the car and I guess I was really into her so I was nervous to invite her to my house for dates.
oh wow... not sure how you're going to salvage that
So I take it you would of been offended too?
yes, it's actually happened to me before
So how did you handle the situation?
well... he kept staying in my life as friends.
it was hard but managed to stay friends
So you never forgave him for that? Did you or do you still have feelings for him?
I still have feelings but he doesn't know it now.. that was 2yrs ago
in fact I am afraid to reveal any of those feelings to him again
I have a scar because of him
I guess I don't understand why you wouldn't give him another chance if he willing to recognize the problem and solve it. If you have feelings for him why not act on them and try one more time?
fear of the fall again
Maybe getting back together could heal that scary what are you afraid of if you mind me asking?
So being afraid to reveal those feeling did you ever deny to him that you ever liked him or was ever into him?
he knew how I felt 2yrs ago... but he rejected me. lately he has shown interest but I don't trust him with my feelings now
So it was him that broke it off or got offended by the situation?
will answer in a bit... got to charge battery...
thanks for holding.. so we didn't have a falling out. I just slowly started withdrawing my affections and he wanted to remain friends
I was hurt by his reluctance
and then when I fully accepted the friendship which was hard.. let me tell you, he recently starts showing romantic interest... so now I'm just confused
So he didn't try to accept the problem and or apologize for it or fix it.
So are thinking of getting back together with him?
no and we were never together... I wanted him but he refused me sexually
So where you guys friends before this happened or did he refused you sexually on a date?
So when he denied you did you ever say things like you where never into him or deny him rejecting you sexually didn't bother you?
yes we were friends first... although there was attraction on both parts but never acted on it because i was in a relationship already. I never said one bad thing... even when he rejected me, I showed him nothing but love and understanding.
so years later after my relationship ended... he started hanging around where I am usually... that's when I started to develop even more feelings for him... so I was brave enough to ask him out on a date...
So did you guys date and are you thinking of dating him? Do you think you will always have feelings for him? What could he do for you to give him a chance now?
we never really dated although some of our hangouts were like dates. he could make things about his interest or intentions with me. that would help his chances. I've had feelings for him for 7yrs. and just this month they are now going away. it hurts and damage is done so don't if I'll ever trust him with my feelings again
So you think the reason my ex won't get back together with me is because she afraid to trust me with her feelings again and is still hurt about the situation and might have feelings for me still?
yes, unless she flat out said to you the feelings are gone. did she?
Are last convo she got upset at me saying she was never into me and we no chemistry etc., but then I confronted her about the convo before we had when she said I was a great guy and that she needed more then making out when she saw me and that she was embarrassed and fusterated about it. She would dodge the question then apologize for saying all those bad things to me and said she couldn't give me a answer on meeting up because the convo was weird, but has not gotten back to me.
how did you start out the conversation? sounds like she was in defensive mode or caught off guard. even seems a bit angry. can u give more details please to help me make a better assessment?
I start off trying to get her to give me one more chance and that I know she still has feelings for me, because she said in our last convo she couldn't have small talk at the gym because of the car situation and she doesn't hate me, then she started to say she was never into me and I asked why she would make out with me and go on dates with me. She would say she was just giving me a chance and was never into me. I then said why she wanted to have sex with me. She said she knew we where never going to workout anyways. Then I would bring up other things she said in the past and would continue to get angry and say more mean thing like I couldn't get it up and we had no chemistry. Then I told her i wasn't try to win a argument, then she apologize about the things she said.
hmmm that is not good. she's in denial now. yup she decided already that it's not going to work. maybe the window already closed. how long has it been?
6 months ago we broke up
You still have feelings for your guy and it's been 2 years
yes, anything 's possible
for me though, once the window closes, it's sealed shut. it's starting now for him
Hopefully it's not closed and she just needs time get over the situation. I think she still has feelings for me, because I confronted her about saying she wanted to be friends, but every time she see me she avoided me and said she didn't hate me, but it was hard for her to talk to me.
aww yes she is still hurting. you have a chance to make it right. do some romance planning and make meaning ful memories for her
I think im going to wait a little bit until I try to talk to her again. Hopefully she even talk to me by then. I really do think she still attracted to me just hopefully she gets over not trusting with her feelings.
she won't unless u change her mind... if u just wait and do nothing.. nothing will change. remember you hurt her. why would you think she needs to do any work at this point? isn't the whole point that you wanted to start something up with her again?
hesitating is not sexy
I tried about 2 months ago and she said she couldn't give me a answer and hasn't gotten back to me. I also try facebook friend her and she denied it, but didn't block me.
you might have to get your radio out and put over your head in front of her window. lol
That's a possibility.
thanks for MHO! keep me posted on the outcome will ya
Yeah for sure. Thanks for the advice and listening. Any additional advice would be helpful and appreciated.
Did you have a ex comeback after a year or more and why did you guys break up?
No, they did not come back. I wouldn't have taken them back anyway. I have the policy of NEVER trying to reconnect with an ex.
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