So the other week, after being broken up for 2 months, my ex boyfriend messaged me and started talking to me. He was like, how's soccer, and I was like good, then he started talking about his prom. He lives in a different state than me, but both states are right next to each other and so it's not like we are too far away. Anyways, I was like cool, and he was like yeah, and I had to go so I said goodnight and said bye. well just 3 days ago he started messaging me again, I really didn't want to talk, because I still love him, well I decided to be polite and ask him how his prom went. He said OK, so I said okay, and then he said, Kelsey, I'm sorry. So, being confused, I was like for what? he said, for everything that I did to you, I didn't want to hurt you like that. Me: its okay, you did what you thought was best, and it just bugs me why you never gave me a clear reason for breaking up. HIM: Have you ever loved something so much, that you didn't want to stand in the way of it doing something great? I replied with yes, which he replied with: "I love you more than anything in the world, and I was afraid of you choosing me over doing something great with your life."
My question is, does this seem like he was sincere with that answer, or would the first reason, which had something to do with alcohol, seem more believable. I love him so much, but I do not want to get hurt again...</3
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So, this is what MY thoughts are on this whole thing.. You are still young! You will not really know what love is until you have experienced more in life.. or reword.. You may know what love is and love someone, but you are so young, you will most likely love a few more times in life.. I know you may care about this guy, but sounds fishy.. Honestly he sounds like he may be into drugs.. People that are moody like that, it can be an indication of taking something of that sort, or possibly even the alcohol you had mentioned. Have a lot of experience with addicts the last 5 years, my child's father is an addict. If this is what he is doing then, stay away from him! Don't get mixed up in it all again, you will get hurt! Trying to help him will not help so much.. Addicts will only seek help when they have finally admitted they have a problem and decide that they themselves alone want to quit!
So now, saying maybe he may not, let's give him the benefit of the doubt.. Say he really is just emotionally back and forth with you.. Still, I'd be careful.. If he's not spoke to you in 2 months and suddenly is trying to reconnect.. sounds like he may have been playing the field a little and realized he prefers you.. or if you are having sex.. maybe he is just wanting a booty call.. So many possibilities.. Either way, why don't you give it some more time solo.. and see how he acts.. If he is saying he loves you and all and he truly does, he will wait around for you for when you are ready. Hope you get it all sorted out.. But, don't stress, you have a lot of time left in life, and honestly you will change so much the next 10 or so years, you may not even like this guy in a few years, so take care of yourself first.. accomplish what you want in life before you go off with this guy and marry him and regret not giving life a shot first. There is always time for love later. Or at least on a more serious level.3