My ex dumped a month ago and im still reeling. We were together 2 years. He dumped me over text after just hours earlier saying he loved me so much and that we had a great future ahead of us.
He, by all accounts loved me... he not only said it but showed it in all sorts of ways. But since the breakup, he won't talk to me, he's cruel the very few times weve talked (all over text mind you) he's a different person. And he's not seeing anyone and even mutual friends think he's acting very strange. But from what they say, he's also starting to be somewhat back to his happy self. How can someone that says they love me dump me so callously and now act like it never happened or that i even existed. His 8 yr old son cries for me and misses me. and he can't even tell him we split. This guy has no balls to tell me what went wrong or tell his son the truth (he told him i work a lot).
ugh... as bad as it is, i still deeply love him and its not this new version of him... its the sweet gentle guy i grew to love. But why can he move on so easily?
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I have been where you are. I think most of the time men know in their mind way in advance. It is not that they are emotionless a holes, but they have emotions they don't always show. He was probably thinking about it for a long time, But here is the deal, men would rather bite off their fingers then have an emotional talk with you. They don't want to see women emotional, they don't like the conflict, they don't know what to do. That is why he acts angry. Listen when I say this. He is not angry at you, but is using the angry action to put up a wall. He has to be mad at you, or he can't move on. I am telling you this as an older person. He can't tell you what went wrong right now, it is too fresh. You have to step back, give me some space. Take him out of your thoughts if possible but for sure out of your life. Give him time. My best advice, don't contact him for 4 weeks. Make him miss you. It will work even if he doesn't reach out to you, after that time, face him, either with a personal letter or talk to him face to face. You will get your answers if not before. Trust me! Best of luck1
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