My boyfriend and I broke up on Saturday. He said he hasn't been happy and he doesn't know what's wrong, and he's tired of trying. But he said he's not ruling out the possibility of us getting back together. He said he talked to his sister, who is now engaged. Apparently, she said that she and her fiance broke up a while ago and ended up getting back together, and now they're going to get married in August. They ended it before they 'hated each other'.
My ex and I haven't talked since we broke up, though we agreed that we would. We were together almost a year before we broke up. But I don't see how we can get back together if we don't talk, you know? I just don't want to bother him.
Do you think there's ever a chance that we'll get back together? Maybe soon? He said he loved me, he just couldn't be with me, but we might have another shot in the future.
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Sounds like he just wants space.
Don't contact him unless he contacts you. Six weeks is usually the approx time to give him.
When it comes to what if, it really depends on how much he valued the relationship. You should take this time to yourself as well to reflect on your relationship to see if it is worth saving ( I know, I know. We all think it's worth a second shot) what I really mean by this is does all the good in the relationship weight out the bad?
The best way to get throught this time is just to assume that it is over and accept that you can not change this. Calling him and talking to him can actually make things worse, so when in doubt, do nothing. When you learn to accept the break up and work with it rather than against it, it can get easier to understand when you aren't trying to search for an answers. When you do nothing, your not doing anything to make the situation better or worse, your kinda just putting it on hold but mentally you really should try to get past this and leave him alone...
If you really do love him, which I'm sure you do. Then losing you will hurt him more than anything you could ever do or say, he just needs to figure it out on his own. Who knows maybe when he figures out what he wants and changes, you may not want him anymore. Hanging on to him will only cause you more pain. I know it hurts and it probably will for a long time but try to do what is best for YOU.0