We were together for a year and I was very in love with her. I thought she loved me too, but she dumped me and said that she couldn't keep making pretend that she loved me and that she never loved me or felt any sparks throughout our entire relationship. She had a VERY questionable night out two days prior to the breakup and even though she won't admit it, I highly suspect cheating and that's after all my friends and some mutual friends told me that there's no way she didn't cheat. We had spoken many times about cheating and she always told me that if she ever cheated she'd breakup.
We've barely spoken since the breakup (had 5 weeks with no contact). She still hasn't changed her fb profile pic of us together and when I had asked her if she could change it a week after the breakup because it was giving me false hope that we'd get back together she said she didn't want to change it because she liked it and it was of her in her graduation (she has other pics without me). I've been doing my best to move on and have even been seeing a new girl for over a month now. However, I'm still in love with my ex and miss her like crazy even though I know she was a bad girlfriend and I can and have done much better and that she's not good for me. It sounds dumb, but that picture is giving me false hope that she did actually love me and that she still does. I'm extremely emotionally frustrated since there's nothing more that I would want than to be in a loving relationship with her, but considering how she treated me and her most likely cheating I wouldn't want her back, not that girl. It's so tempting to get in contact with her again and to see her, hold her, and tell her how much I love her and that picture isn't helping at all.
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I would trust your friends on this one. If she cheated, that could very well be why she broke up with you. She even said herself that she'd end the relationship if she ever did that.
I think this is good it happened. I know it hurts and it will for a while, but you have to accept things and learn from them in order to move on. I wouldn't focus too much on her profile photo, she likes it and maybe she doesn't want to let her friends on there know she split up with you yet.
I highly recommend unfriending her on there, and blocking her so you dont have to see her things, her posts or be constantly reminded of her and what you two had. You're with someone else now, a new girl who will hopefully treat you so much better. You deserve to be happy, don't let that photo stand in the way.
I think you should take time to yourself too, and work on building yourself back up. Don't give that girl the satisfaction of causing you to be unhappy, or let her prevent you from starting over with someone new. You know you loved her, and she knew it too. She didn't want to accept it, and was honest she never felt the same way about you at all. Don't waste your time thinking on how to fix things or hanging onto false hope. Let her keep the pic up and you do something for yourself-- be happy with this new gilr and start appreciating what you have now. :)1
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