I briefly dated a guy i really liked three years ago. we did not know each other very well before we started dating. only knew each other a few months, but we were getting to know each other while dating. but i was not ready to get involved due to multiple factors too long to go into but nothing to do with him. i did not explain anything to him i just eft at the time i thought it was easier because we were both busy and he wouldn't understand my reasons anyhow. so it was ike i was saving him time.
he did not see it that way and was quite hurt and frustrated by the situation. we dd not speak for several months, and i was not expecting him to talk to me again but we started spending with him lately with other friends and things are a lot better between us now.
we have been spending time together alone more often and my feelings for him have grown. i'm pretty quiet and distant. i don't want him thinking i don't like him so i asked him a few times if he wanted to hang out.
last time he got really upset and sad he didn't understand me and didn't now what i wanted. he basically demanded to know what i wanted. i got a bit annoyed and said ' i was not asking him for anything i just wanted to know if he wanted to hang out and tbh everything is so complicated id really rather just walk away except im in love with him so i wanted to make sure he's not interested before I did that.. walked away'
by the time i realized what i was saying i already said it and i dont mind him knowing how i feel its just that not what i wanted to talk about. i wanted to start over and take things slow. apologize explain stuff see if he still wanted to be friends then see how things go. ... instead, i just told him im in love with him.
should i still apologize for the past?
and IF he's interested in more than friendship, how do i slow things down after what i said?
if he's not interested can we still be friends?
- he's probably confused you should explain things i won't hurt and might help smooth things over.Vote A
- you said more than enough. if he has questions he can ask. its up to him.Vote B
- other.Vote C
this all happened 5 hours ago at the library.. The event is bothering me, so i posted.
-Thanks for your help.