It has not been going well with my exbf and me. Learned he cheated on me and lied a lot about the contact with them. So after talking a lot and he only told lies I broke up with him and asked him to move out (he moved in with me 1,5 year ago).
Thought i would feel relieved that it is over, instead I'm left with this huge pain insude of me. I really don't know what to do and the pain is killing me.
I really need some help.
Most Helpful Guy
When you get very close with someone, physically and mentally, there is a bond and a joining of sorts. When that connection is broken it can cause a great deal of pain. Because you literally did lose part of you.
You were, at some moment, a part of each other. This is why divorce can be so brutal, it literally tears 2 people apart.
It's difficult, and you have to be very careful not to quickly fill the void with another person, this is what 90% of people do and it's usually the wrong person, but it makes us feel better because the void is gone.
I fell hard for this girl once, even asked her to marry me, but a couple months later I caught her, in my house, with another man. it got worse, but in the end I was destroyed. Another woman came into the picture and I accepted it, destroyed and torn, she was the WRONG girl, but I stayed with her for 10 years.
Looking back, it was so stupid, but at the time, I thought it was helping.0
Most Helpful Girl
You are going through the feelings of betrayal. It's very normal and I will request you to feel all of it. Beating him up would have helped but you dealt with it as a generous person. Not everyone is as kind as you are,
so I have to salute you.
BUT! Don't let that scumbag get back or! anything and everything that includes you taking him back, because - if he was the one, he would have done better! NOT WORSE! YOU ARE FEELING THIS WAY BECAUSE HE DID YOU WORSE!
And they will keep on doing this to you - till you are completely finished and over!1