Last night, I went on a blind date -- which normally isn't my style, but I decided to try something different when it came to dating. My date and I seemed to have common interests, and while our conversational repertoire was fairly good, the physical attraction just wasn't there for me at all. However, she wrote me a very gracious e-mail today, thanking me for dinner and spending time out last night, and made it clear that the option for a second date is there.
I'm just curious of how best to handle letting her down gently. I know there's no pain-free way of saying "I'm just not into you", but I wouldn't mind hearing some advice of how to go about it gracefully, especially when she seems to be a very polite, good-natured person. Any thoughts or input would be greatly appreciated.
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Minda has a great point which I fully support, but I will also suggest a way to tell her; incase you aren't interested in waiting to develop that physical attraction she spoke about:
- Jessica, I had a great time last night hanging out with you; but I think you are looking into things a little faster than what I'm interested in. I can say that I don't feel any attraction for you at this moment. If you would like to be a friend, I'm here for the fun memories, but I don't feel like pursueing you would be fair to someone like yourself. Thank you for being gratuitous and respectful.