By stuff I mean a one-of-a-kind ring (that was from my grandmother) that he used to propose to me... Then he bought me a diamond ring and wore the original around his neck to "feel close to me" while we were apart. I've asked him twice for it back but he his dragging his feet. The breakup was fairly amicable consideing the circumstances. We had an amazing relationship and yes, the breakup blindsided me and crushed me. Thanks!