Hi, As a brief overview i was dating my ex for almost a year (im 27, she's 26). Roughly 2 & a half months ago we broke up. At the time we were temporarily living together as my lease ended and hadn't found a new place. Throughout our relationship I was guarded, not good at expressing my emotions. loved her, but I never told her that. We rarely fought during our time together. But when we did I would be closed off.
The reason for the break up: I did not tell her & act like I was fully committed. Holding her hand, telling her I loved her, not being there for her (I. e death in the family) and I wasn't supportive enough. These are all things she said & I fully agreed with.
After not talking for over 30 days we got lunch the other day & caught up. Had a friendly conversation but admittley it was awkward. We didn't talk about the relationship as I wanted to have a nice meal with her, remember the good times & try and get a sense if she still had feelings.
I texted her the next day asking to get coffee so we can actually talk. Two hours in a coffee shop, I told her I still had feelings for her and want to show her I changed/want to work on our relationship if given the opportunity. She even said that she can tell that I'm more open emotionally and fully engaged. She said she still has still has feelings for me but she doesn't want to jump into a relationship because she is scared things won't change and she travels a lot for work and we won't be in the same city for a period of time. I agreed and told her she needs to be 100% if she wants us to give it another shot.
I left it saying she will always have a special place in my heart & when she decides (whether It be good or bad) that we can talk. But I can't promise i will be here when she decides.
After all this rambling I was curious as to what others think? I love her but understand I need to give her space to think about what I said & hope she can forgive me and let me show her that things can be diffeeemt.
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Be consistent. You say you changed yet you may not be there when she decides. Don't tell her. Show her with actions. You've both alreadh invested time. Don't keep wasting more time if deep down you know it won't work.0