Most Helpful Guy
You haven't found anyone new, and you haven't found a new non-romantic focus in your life, I would guess. Work on changing your location and activities, do something new that makes you too busy to ponder what happened years ago.
Most Helpful Girl
Break ups are never easy even if it was the right thing for you. It's obvious you are still hurt by him and part of the reason is you two are in a gray area he reaches out to you once a year but then stops there and that can be very confusing and also remind you of the good and bad times you two had together. When I had break ups I had to block my exes on my phone for at least a year and did not seek them out and I have to say that did help. Most things at some point comes to an end and that includes the pain from a breakup.