Few days ago i found out that my boyfriend has been flirting with few girls. There's this one girl who he kept on telling to visit him and there's a time when he would be complimenting her. I am very devastated when i found out about this. We were on our vacation and he was flirting with girls on text. I got very furious and started punching him. Long story short i gave him another chance. I just feel very betrayed knowing that i cut off everyone he doesn't like me to hangout with or guys who are flirting with me but he instead does this to me. What should i do?
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Most Helpful Guy
The man's got to flirt to keep his tools sharp for you.
Look at it from his point of view
So you're a sports fisherman
You're catch this fish... and like any other sportsman... you show it to your friends... you take a picture... you look at it... and you throw it back in the water.
Any girlfriend, or wife or a significant other... is a fish that jumped back onto your boat. This fish will flap around on your boat and run all the other fish away. And you tell this fish what your job is but she says, when she flops back on the boat, "Is that all I am to you?"
And as a man, with this dichotomy, you say "No... no you're the fish for me and I'm not a piece of shit. You're the last fish I wanted to catch." So, now, you're dating.
Next, the fish says, "You love me?" and you reply, "Yea, yes I love you fish." And the fish says, "Well, then, now that you love me... why do you still have your boat? And this pole? And the bait?"
So what she is saying is that she wants you to stop being what you were to get her. It was your job and what made you come together but you give that up.
And one day down the road you're with your fish and she just looks at you and says... "You don't even have a boat. Look at that guy over there. He has a boat. You used to be this great fisherman."
Basically you need to smell fish on him so you can act right.0
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Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't trust him at all. I think you should end it because that attitude is very disrespectful and now it's just flirting, but in a few months it may become something more. Or not. I would have to know him more, but I wouldn't stand for it.
But also, I think it was really bad from you to punch him. Women are normally on the recieving end of violence, but that doesn't make it ok for a woman to phisically attack a man. Never. I'm completly against phisical violence, no matter who is on the recieving end.0