Few days ago i found out that my boyfriend has been flirting with few girls. There's this one girl who he kept on telling to visit him and there's a time when he would be complimenting her. I am very devastated when i found out about this. We were on our vacation and he was flirting with girls on text. I got very furious and started punching him. Long story short i gave him another chance. I just feel very betrayed knowing that i cut off everyone he doesn't like me to hangout with or guys who are flirting with me but he instead does this to me. What should i do?
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Most Helpful Guy
The man's got to flirt to keep his tools sharp for you.
Look at it from his point of view
So you're a sports fisherman
You're catch this fish... and like any other sportsman... you show it to your friends... you take a picture... you look at it... and you throw it back in the water.
Any girlfriend, or wife or a significant other... is a fish that jumped back onto your boat. This fish will flap around on your boat and run all the other fish away. And you tell this fish what your job is but she says, when she flops back on the boat, "Is that all I am to you?"
And as a man, with this dichotomy, you say "No... no you're the fish for me and I'm not a piece of shit. You're the last fish I wanted to catch." So, now, you're dating.
Next, the fish says, "You love me?" and you reply, "Yea, yes I love you fish." And the fish says, "Well, then, now that you love me... why do you still have your boat? And this pole? And the bait?"
So what she is saying is that she wants you to stop being what you were to get her. It was your job and what made you come together but you give that up.
And one day down the road you're with your fish and she just looks at you and says... "You don't even have a boat. Look at that guy over there. He has a boat. You used to be this great fisherman."
Basically you need to smell fish on him so you can act right.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Wait, so he wanted you to cut ties with people he wasn't comfortable with you being around (at least that is how I read it), but he isn't willing to do the same for you? I personally believe that people in a relationship should trust each other and not try to set ultimatums like that (I believe that if you can't trust someone to be faithful that there is no reason to be with them), but if someone lives by a different set of rules than they expect others to live by, that is unacceptable no matter the case. Also, people who cheat usually are very insecure and jealous and are afraid of their partners cheating, typically. I would say dump his ass, he sounds worthless.0