Why doesn't he look for someone else though? He feels secure because I understand him but why does he want to be all affectionate? He says things like "this is so nice" when he asks me to lie against him on the sofa. He won't talk about it when I try to message him about it. He's said before maybe he has a soft spot for me & he misses that we always got along. but is it just talk? I've told him no more, then he asks me out for a drink or says he's sorry if he's behaved like an asshole, but he wasn't sure what was going on with us. How can he not be sure, when he gave up the relationship because he's lazy & doesn't want to invest in a relationship.
He wanted to go for a drink over Christmas. I've told him I can't do this. This time I told him again in a long message that he doesn't care really, because if I meet up with him, the next day we won't talk again & I feel he wants to be single, but have someone there, but I just want to move forward. All he replied was "have a great new year R__ x" He hasn't been online since.