Ok, so me and my girlfriend went on a break in August.
Since then she has been partying, going out, dating multiple guys
all the while ignoring me, telling me I couldn't see her, acting shady, giving me heartache etc.
I wanted to work things out, but she "needed space"
I begged her not to do it. multiple times.
I begged her to come back to me and talk things out.
She didn't want to at all.
Now, 5 months later she calmed down.
Her family and friends think I am a great guy, I am goodlooking and a doctor. They know I love her.
She knows. But she doesn't appreciate me because I have been chasing her while she cheated on me. She doesn't respect me at all any more.
She even said that if we got back together, she wouldn't have any feelings for me any more.
She knows she fucked up, and that she is missing out on a great guy. We all know she fucked up, but I keep forgiving her so easily because I want her back quickly so she stops screwing around, but she keeps treating me like shit.
anyway, now that she calmed down she said it was my turn to cheat on her.
I am quite a serious guy, I don't want to slut it up. I just want a loving girlfriend.
I don't feel like partying or sleeping with other girls
yet I am still in love with her. even though she made me go through emotional hell.
Honestly all I really want is her to truly be sorry, and then make things up again as soon as possible.
What the fuck do I do now
Most Helpful Girl
You need to end the relationship and move on. There is no way to come back from a situation like this. You can't force her to have feelings for you, or make her put the effort in. It's something she has to want on her own, and she doesn't.
If you're really determined to try anything to make it work, I have one suggestion: Break up with her, cut contact, and move on with your life. After a long time- like a full year or more- if you still have feelings for her and think she's right for you, reach out and see how she's doing. But take it slow, and don't ask for a date or express feelings for her right away. Give her a chance to see that you are capable of standing up for yourself and doing what is right for you, and make her miss you.1
Most Helpful Guy
Dude you are being the biggest fucking pansy. I'm not saying that arbitrarily just to be a dick either. That is all based on what I've read here. You need to grab you nuts to remind yourself that you are still man because it sounds like you have forgotten at this point. Drop this girl and make some serious life changes to remind yourself that you have some value. You are nothing but a weak boy toy that this girl talks shit on with her friends. You fucked up.. realize that.. recover.. make changes.2