We've been official for only a month, he rarely contacts me, I always have to set up dates, and acts unknowing of my wants and needs pretty often. (Even though on dates he never runs out of stuff to say and acts very caring but only in person.)
My friends hate him for that reason (saying stuff like a guy you just started dating should be contacting you more than twice a week) and they all think I should break up.
We were in the middle of making plans and he said he was going to check his schedule for free time, I wait to hear from him again. Almost 24 hours pass, I don't hear from him and I send him a text, we start texting and it seems like he basically forgot that we were making plans. I had to remind him again if he was free tomorrow and he said yes.
tomorrow on our date I'm seriously considering just saying "hey you're a busy guy and I'm someone with too much free time, when these two kinds of people date it doesn't really go well, so let's just split up." I feel like I'm putting in all the effort here, and as much as I like this guy, he's made me cry myself to sleep on more than one occasion. He's a horrible communicator. And since long distance will be a thing in 6 months for about a year or two, I feel like communication is important.
do I have good reason to break it off with him? Or is an issue like this something that can be overcome? If I am going to break up, how can I gain the courage to do it?
Most Helpful Guy
Break up with him if you really want to. But never bring your friends into your personal relationship with your man. That's none of your friends business.1
Most Helpful Girl
Hey, so before you breakup give it a chance. On the date bring up these issues and talk about them because relationships depend 100% on communication.
Just bring it up and say something like "I want things to change because it feels like your two different people with me. When we're together you act like you care and when we aren't you don't seem to have the time of day for me." It doesn't have to be that exactly but something close to it.
Give him a chance to try and change his ways otherwise call it quits then. Good luck!1