We've been official for only a month, he rarely contacts me, I always have to set up dates, and acts unknowing of my wants and needs pretty often. (Even though on dates he never runs out of stuff to say and acts very caring but only in person.)
My friends hate him for that reason (saying stuff like a guy you just started dating should be contacting you more than twice a week) and they all think I should break up.
We were in the middle of making plans and he said he was going to check his schedule for free time, I wait to hear from him again. Almost 24 hours pass, I don't hear from him and I send him a text, we start texting and it seems like he basically forgot that we were making plans. I had to remind him again if he was free tomorrow and he said yes.
tomorrow on our date I'm seriously considering just saying "hey you're a busy guy and I'm someone with too much free time, when these two kinds of people date it doesn't really go well, so let's just split up." I feel like I'm putting in all the effort here, and as much as I like this guy, he's made me cry myself to sleep on more than one occasion. He's a horrible communicator. And since long distance will be a thing in 6 months for about a year or two, I feel like communication is important.
do I have good reason to break it off with him? Or is an issue like this something that can be overcome? If I am going to break up, how can I gain the courage to do it?
Most Helpful Guy
Break up with him if you really want to. But never bring your friends into your personal relationship with your man. That's none of your friends business.1
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I think you should tell him first what you think of the whole situation and basically "announce" your displeasure before breaking up. Maybe he thinks twice a week is enough and doesn't know you'd like to have more time together. If you tell him clearly what you think and he doesn't give you a reason or change his behavior to meet your needs to some extent, then I think you probably are too different to work out and should consider going your own separate ways.1