I am talking to this guy right now and I feel like I am not showing him enough hints that I like him in a relationship way, how can I show him I like him in other ways that are not sexual and I don't wanna scare him away also by liking him too much
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Scaring him away by liking him too much?
Unless you feel that you really are the clingy type, I don't think that can naturally happen. In other words, unless that's really you, you'd have to FORCE that kind of behavior for yourself, let alone have that behavior "accidentally" or naturally happen.
If you are that type and just don't want to tip him off on it, well, the effort is futile. Why? Because if you really are the clingy type, you'll eventually have a slip-up, down the road, when you're more emotionally invested in the relationship, and you'll just be more hurt. Unless you plan on faking it & controlling your behavior for the rest of your life.
As far as letting him know, less than 1% of the male population is aware or observant enough to pick up on what you think are "hints".
Any more than a blind bat can see in a pitch black room. That's how guys are.
Guys can "listen", guys can "feel", but if you think eye-contact, smiling or your body language is going to communicate ANYTHING to him; you're just fooling yourself, wasting your time, and setting yourself up for more frustration & heartbreak.
It's not how men communicate! Men communicate VERBALLY & PHYSICALLY, not non-verbally. Male communication is direct. That's how they're used to GIVING information, and that's also the form of communication they're more receptive to RECEIVING information in.
If two guys have a problem, they either fist fight, wrestle, hit each other, spit on each other, insult each other directly, and argue logically until a victor emerges. That's how men work. There's no back-stabbing, cat & mouse social-circle games being played indirectly to get at the other while saving face. That's the domain of girls. Guys don't communicate that way.
When girls watch soap operas, they're analyzing the ways the characters are manipulating each others' emotions or social relationships, and learning new strategies to get what they want by doing the same. When guys watch soaps, they think the plot is stupid & want to watch something else.
Guys talk about sports, politics, business, law, etc. because they are interested in direct real forms of power; over indirect abstract forms of power.
The way to speak his language (man-ese) is to communicate directly to him, verbally (so he can hear you) and physically (so he can feel you - though not necessarily sexually).
Words & touch go a very long way with guys. Talking to him and touching him communicates to him that he's at the very least, NOT someone you DON'T WANT around you. This makes him feel safe, that you don't think he's ugly, annoying, a loser, etc.
That's really all you need to establish with a guy. From there on, he'll start to become more perceptive to your interest in him. As he does, he'll also start communicating his interest in you; but unlike you, he'll do so more directly.2
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