My guy used to accuse me of sleeping with other guys while we were apart from each other every time we talked on the phone. He knows I would never do it but he keeps asking me anyway & when I say no he would say " I know you have, its not like you would tell me anyway" .
Now, he's away again but never attacks me for sleeping with other guys. He said he loved me and would never do that to me. He doesn't make an effort to call me as much as he should since were apart. Is this just another cover up mechanism for cheating?
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Well it could be another cover up mechanism for cheating but truthfully, I think you should leave him. He doesn't trust you and it doesn't sound like he's a trustworthy person. It sounds to me like you don't trust him anymore either. This. Is. Bad.
Trust should be one of the most important tings in any relationship and this guy clearly doesn't trust you or respect you. Seriously what kind of an asshole says something like "I know you have, its not like you would tell me anyway"? That's beyond paranoid. It's just plain rude and cold and bordering on abusive.
Honestly I say you should grab him by the face some day and say something like "I'm fucking tired of this shit, learn to trust me, or this will never work. If you don't stop accusing me of cheating, I'm fucking leaving you.". He might react badly to this. He might not. honestly I knew one girl who said that and her boyfriend hit her for it. If he actually hits you, then you know better, and you don't even have to wait. Just leave him right there.
Honestly though I seriously think that this guy probably doesn't deserve the warning or second chance, I personally think you should leave him ASAP and never look back. But if you want to give him a chance just take the path I chose you above. He might change for a while but he might revert back, and I'm pretty sure he will. You know what to do if he does.
I wish you best of luck in all this.0
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