I hated myself intensely for not wanting sex often with her (I'm 100% hetero btw). She confronted me one time and burst into tears saying she didn't feel attractive. I placated her by saying "why don't we be traditional" i. e. stop the role reversal (she initiated probably 80 % of the time)
However I loved everything else about this woman. I even had the marriage idea swim around my head a few times. However I started to rationalize to myself that "how could I spend the rest of my life with her if I already don't want into get bed with her..."
So I felt too guilty to dump her. Instead I drove her into dumping me. I started acting depressive, arrogant, aloof on purpose to lower her interest level. However I never insulted her or did anything over the top. It ended up working out well. I saw a change in her attitude and lo and behold she dumped me. At the split I did argue with her slightly, but I ultimately told her that "I was angry at myself but a part of me would always love her (true)". Turns she wanted ABSOLUTELY nothing to with me after that.
This wounded me very deeply, for a very long time. Now it's been almost 3 years since that split. I also had another long term relationship end after this one above. However that one didn't bother me at all. With that chic it was the polar opposite... way physically attracted to her but not emotionally.
Just curious if any other dudes on here have ever had a similar situation i. e. love an attractive girl as a friend but just don't have it for her for a reason you don't know? This one has haunted me.