Today I was dumped by my boyfriend. How do I get over it?
I have already ate a tub of ice cream, watched sad movies and cried my eyes out.
What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I'd actually recommend steering clear of sad movies, especially romantic ones, and also maybe take it easy on the ice cream.
Some people advise to keep yourself busy, don't be idle, but I'd throw a twist to that advice. I'd suggest keeping yourself busy with something that motivates and inspires you -- the type of thing where you can wake up in the morning and be excited about doing it and working towards some dream. If you find this motivating activity, you'll be so in love with doing it that he'll start to work towards the back of your mind.
A broken heart is like a broken dream as I see it. You can fill it up with a new dream. It doesn't even have to revolve around another person just yet -- it's generally better that way since you might be tempted to compare every person for the time being with your ex.1
Most Helpful Girl
Put that tub of ice cream away as you will soon feel bad about how you look when the calories add up. Don't watch sad movies, though they connect with you, but they make you cry. Instead, show your ex that you aren't that easy to beat and cry and instead focus on yourself. Do things that you haven't done in awhile. Show him what he is missing, but don't do it for him, do it for you. Pamper yourself, treat yourself the way you would treat a boyfriend. Your person has been with you since birth, so you need to show it your apprecition. And the benefit to that is you will learn a lot more about yourself and learn to appreciate yourself. If you see a problem with yourself, work on it, if you see something you dislike take it out and/or put something that you love back in. Make yourself a better person than you were when you dated your ex. Become the person you wanted to be. So put away the ice cream and the next saddestg movie of 2016 and listen.
Go out with your friends and enjoy your life, take out things that make you think of your boyfriend and treat him like he wasn't all that. Think of it as, you've lived so long without him from birth, you can do that again. Focus on yourself and do things you enjoy that makes you happy. Find a guy who wants to be with you and won't dump you, and kudos to you if you get over your ex and get a date before he does. Then he'll be jealous, but don't do things to make him jealous, it won't be fair to the other, but do things because you know you want this, that you want to be happy. If you know what you want, get it, don't hold back. Use your breakup as a way to understand yourself and love yourself. If you don't you'll never get over him, and he'll win. Guys get over girls after a break up faster as they don't usually hold on to emotional factors to a person as long as a girl does depending on how long they have dated. I'm not saying that he doesn't care for you, but I am saying that he may move on faster than you.
Gawd, this was a jumble, but to shorten it, learn to love yourself and take care of yourself like you did with your ex when you both were dating. Don't let him bring down who you are, but instead show him the person that is strong enough to get over him and to move on with life. Believe me, people who do that than dwell on the past are much more happier than the latter who doesn't. I hope this helps:)1
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