We decided mutually not to get married many years ago, so I let it lie.
After 27 years, she just cut out, said I wasn't giving her enough of my time, (I work 60+ hours a week and she was unemployed), so I had little time to spend overall, and I went fishing once a week with my buddy.
We are potentially "Dating" again, but I'm looking for advice from the ladies especially, what do you think is really going on here? Am I wasting my time?
I really had my poop in a group, I'm a homeowner, good job, and paid for everything she needed, fixed her cars, and did it all without much help from her. Why in the hell would she bail?
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From the sounds of it, it sounds like she is sticking with you until she can find someone better, or to see what comes along next.
27 years is a long time to be with someone. Chances are she hid her loss of interest years ago, and stuck with you because you provide her with a security (and everything else) that she needs, has and wants/ Even if she desn't feel the same way about you anymore, she still has you there, and you to get her what she needs, and to take care of her.
It is up to you to try the relationship again, but if she had issues the first time that came out of no where like that, and never bothered bringing it up, or talking about it, chances are she will frown upon something again and again and choose to repeate the same thing.
You have your life together pretty good. You have a good job, a source of income, a place of your own, and you spending your earnings on her is just another reason for her to stick around. She sounds like she could be using you for what you have to offer, and taking advantage of your feelings, as she is well aware how you feel about her.
I would recommend thinking this over. If you try the relationship again, let her purchase and work towards things to help herself. And don't let her get you feeling down about not granting her enough of your time. You're doing everything you can for this girl, and after that many years of being with you, to bail on you for that isn't appropriate.
I hope you can think it through and decide what is best for yourself. Always take your own happiness into consideration before anyone else's.
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