We dated for half a year, it got serious and then we had an ugly break up. He broke up with me, didn't want to work through things, refused to talk it over with me, and tried to say everything he could to basically sabotage me, destroy me even I told him that I cared deeply for him and apologized if I did something to cause him to act in such a way. He stopped talking to me altogether (not even a hello or acknowledgment of my existence), refused to give me closure, would purposely avoid me, started rumors about me, etc. I honestly don't know how this break up got so ugly.
He continues to be ugly towards me and acts like everything I do is to get him back. The last time we talked (half a year ago), I met with him to see if he wanted to work through things or clear anything up since he continued to act immature and treat me ill. I asked him if he wanted to get back together, but he refused and said everything he could to hurt me. I explicitly told him that once we break up, there's no going back and forth it's done on my end. He told me to move on in such a cold, detached way- no regard for my feelings as a human being (let alone someone he used to care about).
I continue to treat him kindly even though he's been so hurtful. It's been so long since our break up (year and a half) that I've now told myself that I don't need to go out of my way to give him space and that I no longer need to accommodate someone who clearly didn't respect our relationship/feelings enough to treat me in a civilized manner. Why can't he just be polite? It's not like I go up to him to have a conversation or expect us to be friends. He gives me ugly looks, evil eye , blankly stares at me. will purposefully and dramatically leaves if he sees that I engage with people close to him but he likes to stay near me if he thinks I'm not looking. If he doesn't care, why hold such a grudge? I'm moving on, why does he have to go to such lengths to remind me of our relationship gone sour?
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You said you've moved on then stop caring about him now. He might be seeing that you still care for him that why he is acting that way still. After 1 1/2 year you must talk to him anymore. If you want to still be friend with him then give him some boundaries and do not allow him to treat you that way. Stop any communication with him anymore so that you will not be hurt anymore of his attitude. He needs to be mature and if he doesn't do that then just go away from him.0