So I've liked this girl at school for a little while, but I didn't really start talking to her until two weeks ago. Anyway, we have summer school classes together, and so I have been talking to her a lot the past few days, and I asked her out to lunch today.
The lunch went well, I had a lot of fun and I think she did too. However, I have two concerns (and I tend to over analyze things, so I am I going to overdrive with this).
First concern is that I want her to know that I am interested in her as more than just friends. This is easy to establish when you are just meeting a girl somewhere and ask her out, but it is harder when you have had previous contact (although we never talked until recently). Is the fact that I asked her out to lunch, paid for it, and hugged her at the end enough to establish my intentions? Do you think she knows that I want to be more than friends?
Second, the hug at the end was kind of awkward. I've never done a lunch first date before, and so I wanted to make some body contact, but wanted to be appropriate given the time and place (on a public street). We stopped and said that we would see each other soon, and then she was standing there and I reached out and touched her arm, put my hand down, and then pulled her in for a 3/4 hug. It was not my smoothest moment, and I felt like I handled it kind of awkwardly. She kind of laughed a bit, so I'm not sure what that means. I'm hoping it was a nervous/she felt like she was being awkward too kind of laugh, at least that was what I sounded like.
So, although the rest of the date went well, did the end of it hurt my chances with her?
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Best advice I can off you is this..
make no special effort to see her for about 6 days then call her.. when you call her ask her out for a date after school/work on a week day about 4 days AFTER you make the call, and when you ask her use the word DATE.. ie
"Id like to see you for a date next tuesday, say 6pm"
if she turns you down then she has no romantic interest, if she accepts then things get harder becouse you SHOULDNT be toutching her on the date, she has to come to you.. (toutching your arm ect).. if your unsure about her interest in you at the end of the date go in for a kiss.. if she turns her head then she's not interested and you should move on..
ALWAYS remember your interest in her isn't inportant when dating its HER interest in you.. if she doesn't have any no amount of chasing her will make her change her mind..