Before we married I had a career he asked me to quit to start a family I never saw myself as the house wife type but anything to make him happy right? I cook, clean, handle the books, organize his files and at times when asked create his presentations but to him I do nothing.
He wakes up angryvgoes to sleep angry he will bang & break things curse at me and get angry if he feels I'm speaking to him as a child because this is his house he pays everything, but this house was left to us by family and furnished by me & my parents not that it matters I wouldn't remind him of it
At times he forgets to pay bills & keep appointments I tired of being yelled at for reminding so kept quiet he spent all the money we had no food fell behind on bills I had to borrow from my father which he also became angry about.
He thinks I discuss him to people in my personal life not realizing I'm too embarrassed his friends only know because there was an incident before a party he bruised my eye while his friend sat and watched he felt bad became a puppy again and convinced me to put on make up and go because it was for work.
I find myself wishing he would have an deadly accident I would get nothing out of it I have life insurance but he refuses to get some of his own because he wouldn't want me "living well with another man" if he died I don't have desires to be with another man I just think if he died I would only remember the good & be free of him.
I ask to see counselors he refuses I drew up divorce papers & I never saw him so hurt, I mentioned it again today because I love him but this is wrong & he was angry accused me of only wanting him for his money, I reminded him I made more than him when I worked & come from money he does not and he reminded me I had been out of work so long its irrelevant and people would talk.
We have these arguments frequently I think he notices when I work up the nerve to leave because then he is sweet I love him but I'm so miserable is that possible?
- It's possibleVote A
- ImpossibleVote B
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Most Helpful Guy
It takes more than love to make a marriage work. It takes
3. Respect, and
4. Hard work
from both partners.
I don't know that you really even have love but you obviously don't have respect for each other and he isn't willing to work. I don't recommend divorce to people lightly, but. . . realistically, what is going to happen that will change your marriage? Are you willing to live like this the rest of your life?4
Most Helpful Girl
Something is terribly wrong with your husband emotionally. You need to seek out help from church, if he isn't willing to go to a counselor. You've done everything that a good wife should do in this situation it sounds like. But things won't change unless something is resolved within him. You can try asking why he's so angry and ask about his upbringing or past relationships. Maybe he thinks this is normal behavior but it is not. He needs to get help in order for your marriage to come alive again. Go to church and start praying for him.3