Most Helpful Girl
You can't forget, no one can. Grief is a universally human phenomenon, and it has to be felt. Instead of fighting it, learn it. Talk to it. Let it hurt. Let it have words, even just in your own head. You can't outrun pain, but you can heal it. Let it be real, and then decide what you want to have be the outcome of it. Want to be better, for yourself, want to turn anger into actions but not bitterness. Every single wound is an opportunity, and nothing at all can grow and evolve without a little destruction. It's not your end. I promise.
Most Helpful Guy
after 5 years? you have to consider a lot of factors mate...
was it a one time thing, an accident, was it on-going, etc. I mean sex is just an act, cheating is a blatant refusal to make your so called partner happy.
If she had sex with someone else... you gotta see the factors.. was she sorry, had it been a long time coming, did you neglect her... i mean.. so much to think about.
If she cheated once, doesn't make it a "bad" relationship... just means someone fucked up and it can be fixed (plus you get one huge get-out-of-jail-free card)
so dont be so quick to throw 5 years down the toilet. Take it from an ex-player. That time is valuable.