I feel like I really messed up. I have a child by a man that I really feel like it's never going to work out with. I'm very hurt about this.
He's been making me feel like he's changing and truly wants to work things out. I already went from a sweetheart, to a bitter woman by the time he decided to change.
While he was showing signs of change... I was struggling with getting back to my true, sweet self. So, I was all bitter with an attitude. He was getting fed up with our arguments. The main thing is, I'm tired of spending money for him...
It's a long story but my main point is: I feel like he's texting other females because he's always deleting his texts and shying his phone away from my view. I saw him looking at porno pics on his phone right after we had sex.
It hurts me so much that I have a daughter by this man and once we are done for good, I have to face the probability that no man will ever (truly) want me bc I'm just another baby momma.
I know you're thinking: worry about your daughter. That's another (main) reason why I don't want to be with her dad. I don't want her to feel like she has to settle to be treated less than. I feel like I won't be able to prove to her that good men exists!
Am I right to feel like a hopeless romantic or is there hope?
Most Helpful Guy
no one has the right to feel like thier a hopeless romantic unless all of there love ones die. there always hope. If I knew who you were in real life I would of definitely been there for you as a man. There always hope, but having a kid always complicate things dating wise and so does having a baby daddy that isn't great. So your main problem is your baby daddy witch leaves you two options. one find a way to work it out with him. two, remove him from you life, not your kids, and find someone new who going to treat you better1
Most Helpful Girl
It's better for your child's development, as well as maintaining your own sanity, to leave partners who behave in the way you've described above and will create an environment that is anything but stable/beneficial in any way.
Is there hope if that's what you end up doing? Of course. I know many people who met someone new after they already had a child of their own and were very happy in their new relationship. As long as you're not moving from man to man on a weekly basis and/or living paycheck to paycheck, you're not the stereotypical 'baby momma'. Don't let that label alone define you and your self-worth.1