How do I get back my 4 year relationship with the love of my life?
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I wouldn't get your hopes up too much. Honestly, if you broke up with him there's usually a never going back once the relationship has been broken apart.
He sounds like he's moving on, which is great for him and you should do the same. This girl he's with may simply just be a better match for him, if he's happy leave him be.
Now, you have to focus on your own happiness too. If you go back to this guy, the relationship will never be like it was before. Things will be different, the connection will be different, as will the feelings between you both too, and there's no guarentee it'll even work out.
He said there's a 70% chance, yet is interested in dating other people first. That there is a significant impression that he isn't looking to go back with you anytime soon. He wants to test the waters and find if he clicks with other girls, to see if he can find someone suited for him. If he really thought you were his soulmate, he wouldn't have even tried to move on and date other people. Chances are he'd stay single and give you time, hoping to work things with you in the end so he could try the relationship again.
Even with those circumstances of you not being allowed to date, I honestly think you should move on from this guy. You've had a fling with him which is great, but he's clearly trying to move forward and you should do the same. It's been a month with no contact, and he was the one who chose to stop communicating because he's with someone new. He might not feel the same way about you as you do about him, so take his feelings into consideration as well.
We all go through this at one point or another. But I would recommend you stop trying for this guy who's doing his best to move on, and let him be. Work on yourself, and try dating new people. There's plenty of amazing people out there, and who knows, in the near future you may get serious with someone else, and may come to realize one day that this guy wasn't your soulmate afterall.
Love works in odd ways, but give yourself time. Don't stick with a broken relationship when there's so much more out there for you.
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