I'm getting married in 6 months... I love him so much. We live together well and get on great! From the outside we have a fab and happy relationship. We just don't have sex, I've given up initiating it, as I'm always rejected by him. We cuddle on the sofa, kiss goodnight, hug; but don't get anymore passionate or intimate. The only time I see a glimpse of it is when he's been drinking. I love him and don't ever want to hurt him, but we've only had sex 5 times in the past year!
I have tried talking to him about it before but he has got so angry that I am now too scared to talk to him about it.
I just feel that we're now more like friends that live together rather than a couple.
We've known each other for 7 years, been together for 2.5 years and lived together for 1.5 years. we both work for the same company so know the same people at work, even if we rarely cross paths there. I'm 24 and he's 34.
Should we break up before getting married? Am I being selfish? Is this just cold feet - am i making a bigger deal out of this than i should? What should i do?
Most Helpful Guy
Most Helpful Girl
What the hell? He needs to open up about why he doesn't want to have sex with you. I would just tell him, we need to talk calmly about this and if not we need to see a counselor. Let him know your considering leaving. Sex is a big part of a relationship and if he is having an issue with it he needs to be open and honest about it3