They will say and do hurtful things for most of the relationship. They will wait for you to react negative to say that it's your fault that things are coming to an end...
How did you cope?
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I was in an emotionally abusive marriage. Eventually she wanted to go to marriage counseling. Basically she wanted someone else to tell me that it was all my fault. That's not what happened. Instead the therapist told her that she needed to change too. In the end I saw a psychologist, repaired my self-esteem, started standing up to her, and then she filed for divorce. Best possible outcome for me. Now I'm happily remarried.